Weekend Update: confidence & brunch.

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This morning I thought to myself, I have plenty of pictures for a weekend update post! Well, I actually don't. I guess I just didn't take many, though I think the weekend was pretty picturesque. I spent most of it with different groups of friends, largely around the table, which is probably the best way, don't you think? Though Friday and Saturday were rainy, cold, and cozy; Sunday cleared up into a gorgeous Fall day. Pound it, October!

I think this is a good time to share my one word motto for the month: confidence

A note on what confidence means to me: I would consider myself to be a pretty happy and content person, but this month, my goal is to love every minute of being me. By being confident, I can embrace every part of my life right now, love others in the process, and generally be a lovelier person to be around. 

I generally don't believe it when people are arrogant, because I know that everybody has their own insecurities. Usually it's the people that act the most egotistical that have the biggest insecurities. So, I try to be as over-confident as I can (in my head anyway, not out loud) because I know my self-esteem issues will balance out whatever I come up with. Does that make sense?

Another part of it is, it seems like every day I am hit with things that might make me feel like I don't have enough or I'm not good enough. Which is a pretty normal thing. And I know this is such a cliche, but comparison is truly the thief of joy. 

I read a quote recently (and I'm sorry I can't remember where! Probs Pinterest) that I loved so much, I wrote it in the inside cover of my journal, where I can always see it,

"True confidence has no room for jealousy or envy. When you know you're great, you have no room to hate." I love that. 

Part of this motto is also the bravery that comes along with confidence. I don't think I've ever shared that I am an extremely skittish person that freaks myself out a lot. And I have GOT to stop doing that!

This weekend I also finished reading Mindy Kaling's latest, Why Not Me? The last essay was actually about confidence! It couldn't have come at a better time. Here's a part I loved from that essay:

"Confidence is just entitlement. Entitlement has gotten a bad rap because it's used almost exclusively for the useless children of the rich, reality TV stars, and Conrad Hilton Jr., who gets kicked off an airplane for smoking pot in the lavatory and calling people peasants or whatever. But entitlement in and of itself isn't so bad. Entitlement is simply the belief that you deserve something. Which is great. The hard part is, you'd better make sure you deserve it. So, how did I make sure that I deserved it?" [She goes on to say "I work really hard!"] 

I agree with her, confidence and entitlement get a really bad rap, but that's completely not what I'm going for this month. Also- I am obsessed with Mindy and have been since I first saw her as Kelly Kapoor in The Office, so definitely read the book!

Anyway. I hope you had a lovely weekend! Here's to being confident this month. 


reshma said...

What a great monthly motto! I had never heard "comparison is the thief of joy", but now that I think about it's so true! I'm a lot more confident now than when I was younger, but there are always moments in life when I doubt myself and forget to give myself credit for what I deserve. I love your definition of confidence... best of luck this month! :)

Larissa said...

Yeah, confidence is a topic indeed... and I really agree that you will destroy your own confidence as soon as you start comparing yourself to others - we are all different and what is important is to be confident about who WE are... I find this pretty hard actually!
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