Pink Mini in the Holy City

Wednesday, July 26

| glasses: Primark {similar} | lip: Pacifica Love lipstick in Sweet One [this shade is like impossible to find/nonexistent, but the formula is great!] | crop top: H&M {similar} | skirt: J.Crew {similar} | purse: Pop & Suki (gift) |
| heels: Steve Madden (via swap) |

Remember when I went to Charleston? Me neither! Juuuuust kidding, Jacqui! You can read all about the trip, here. And now that the secret’s out, I can shout it from the rooftops: JACQUI [AND MATT] ARE HAVING A BABY! I accidentally outed her at Katie’s wedding which, is a funny story. Now we can laugh about it, right? Oh, and just outed her to the bridesmaids. I basically bullied her into telling me. Anyway. I’m going to be an aunt!

And this is what I wore on our second night out in beautiful Charleston, South Carolina, when we went to La Farfalle and then on the “dark side of Charleston” tour. That was a hoot. Totally recommend. Be warned that it is R rated and all about bordellos (fancy brothels!) Oh and I may have already said this, but La Farfalle (discovered from the Gal Meets Glam Charleston guide) was dope. Delicious pasta that I would eat for every meal if I could, we sat under this giant beautiful tree in a courtyard, and I had something called a "white Negroni" which was awesome!

I think I actually bought this outfit for my birthday a few years ago, and it’s been a favorite ensemble since that I can’t believe has never made it on my blog (I also own this skirt in green!) I even wore this to work once, actually, a day that will live in infamy as “the day I wore a crop top to work.” The thing about this top though is that the crop is actually very subtle- paired with a high-waisted skirt- and there's just a peek-a-boo from the lace cut-outs. And that’s why I still have my job!

This look also features a failed attempt at curling my hair with a straightener that gave me a serious headache. I kept getting the straightener twisted and tangled in my hair and then having to rip it out. Beauty is pain. Can you guys do this??? I have tried SO many times. If you have a trick or tutorial, PLEASE help a blogger out!

Oh, and I got these heels in a swap at work! What luck! My co-worker described them as “too clean” for her taste, after buying them for a wedding. Ha.

Hope you're having a great week! Thanks Jacqui for snapping these pics for me! 

Bridesmaid 101: the Bridal Shower

Monday, July 24

Though wedding season is over for me this year, I figured it was the perfect time to resurrect my Bridesmaid 101 series. To be clear, I was not on bridesmaid duty most recently, but oh have I done my time (so far!)

Maybe you just got asked to be a bridesmaid for the first time, or maybe you’re a seasoned vet with war stories to share. Either way, this series is for you, because weddings are full of tradition and nuance-y things that there are no real rules for. And on that note, though I’ve been in a few weddings, these posts are 100% my experience and not to be taken as law.

In case you missed the start of this series: we talked about the things you should do FIRST when you’re asked to be a bridesmaid, and of course how to survive or even thrive during a Bachelorette party.

All caught up to speed? Great! Today we’re talking about *~the bridal shower~*.

Now I may have a single female heart of ice, but when did bridal showers become kinda a drag?? I do think there is a right way to do it, and it does not involve a wedding dress made out of toilet paper. (Please don’t be offended because I have been to some really lovely showers.)

+ a case for the Bridal Brunch | This might be my issue #1: bridal showers always happen in the witching hours of empty afternoon (like 1-3) which just feels strange. I’m not saying your shower has to coincide with a meal, but I do think an actual event time anchors it nicely. Bridal brunch (two words: mimosa bar) is fantastic, Happy Hour also works well!

+ size does NOT matter | My sisters & I threw a very intimate (read: small) shower (or maybe it was a sprinkle?) for my sister-in-law, Marisol, and you know what? It was just perfect. We had a group of about 15, mostly just hung out and ate, and a family friend my mom described as “as American as apple pie” said it was one of the best bridal showers she’d ever been do. BOOM.

+ cool it on the games | Because I promise you, no one really wants to play them! Haven’t we all just taken one too many quizzes about the bride and groom? Yes. Will a lack of games make it look like you didn’t plan or make the shower boring? NO.

+ howdy, partner | That said, if you do want to include some kind of “programming”, get the partner (who, likely is not at the shower) involved. Getting the partner to answer some funny questions and playing it back never gets old, and always results in the bride being pleasantly surprised/crying.

+ thematic elements | Seriously, use the energy you saved from not planning games and put it into a theme that brings the house down! This is the time to really GO FOR IT with something the bride loves (friends that are reading: BeyoncĂ© for me, thanks), or maybe an inside joke between you and the bride, or the bride and groom? Themes I’ve been a part of (click through to see more details!): Bollywood, travel, floral; themes I want to be invited to: 80’s, 90’s, Paris, any Broadway musical. And of course you cannot go wrong with classy af wedding colors + gold.

+ skip the lingerie | I had to put this note in here: UNLESS it is a LINGERIE SHOWER, DO NOT bring lingerie as a gift. Bring it to the bachelorette party. Otherwise the bride will be forced to open edible underwear while sitting next to her future grandmother-in-law. Yikes!

+ stop: delegate & listen | So whose job is it to plan the bridal shower? Historically, the Maid of Honor. If there is no Maid of Honor, or if you’re the “Maid of Honor”, what has worked really well for me in the past is splitting up the bachelorette party and bridal shower. No one person needs to be in charge of both. That said, though I usually try to be on the bach team, I always make it a point to be available or help with the shower in some way (organizing an activity, gathering supplies, making decorations, etc.)

+ Also do I have to be there? | Another thing that has worked so well in the past is having the bachelorette party and bridal shower in one weekend (if it’s in California and I’m in Nashville.) This is super ideal and worth pitching to the ‘maids, if the majority of you would be traveling. Of course, it doesn’t always happen this way. If you can’t make it to the shower (but only like, because it’s across the country and not because you just don’t want to go) the bride WILL forgive you. The most important event for you to attend is the wedding, right?

+ But do I have to bring a gift? | In my experience, if you’re: traveling, planning the bachelorette party and bridal shower, your bride really doesn’t expect you to. In all honesty, at times I’ve been so busy with planning that I’ve intended to get a gift but forgotten or run out of time. It is totally nice to just pick up something small on the registry, or treat her to something she didn’t register for, or save your awesome gift for the wedding. BUT: that’s what the next post in the series is about.

Ok, let’s hear your bridal shower loves and laments! What has worked well for you? Are bridal showers so over & just a pain? What’s the best themed shower you’ve attended? Am I just an asshole? I want to hear it all! Share below!!

Missed the first and second installments of Bridesmaid 101? Catch them right here!

Cap it off With Chambray

Friday, July 21

| hat: Target {similar} | button-up: Ralph Lauren via Jamie | pants: J.Crew via Poshmark [seriously- Poshmark is that good-good ] heels: Chinese Laundry via Francesca’s {similar} | 

click the item name for additional wears on the blog/brand to shop exact or similar!

Do me a favor: when we meet in person (and I sure hope we do!) if I’m wearing a baseball cap, don’t ask me how many days it’s been since I washed my hair last. Deal? This will just be like a cute little inside joke between us, upon meeting. Maybe you can say a code sentence like “WOWWW you are way funnier in person, Priya!” And I’ll know what you really want to ask, and maybe I’ll even flash the number on my fingers real quick, and we won’t discuss, but we will have this secret unspoken bond that links us forever.

Or, I dunno, you can ask. I really haven’t put any thought into it.

Here’s the thing because I know there are both haters and my mother (sometimes they are one and the same ;) reading this blog: I eat a lot of junk food, but I am not a trash can human. I do bathe and take care of myself. But do you even understand that I am getting literal days of my life back by not washing my hair all the time??? First of all, it takes a full day just to DRY. And second, maybe most importantly, I just do not care. I would wear my hair in a ponytail every day if I didn’t have this blog, I swear.

Anyway, just know if I’m wearing a cap, this is the last and final day and things maybe have spun out of control and lucky for me it’s also a fashion statement! And the last thing I’ll say about this is if I didn’t exercise I would literally never wash my hair ever. I'm hoping to do a post about this soon!

Oh and remember when we discussed that phenomenon where you think you’re a fashion prodigy because you’re wearing this cool outfit and then you find out you actually pinned it years ago? Talk about betrayal! Talk about a roller coaster of emotions! [I actually have an entire board of outfits I’ve pinned and then re-created! Check it!]

I like this outfit because it’s Summery and casual and preppy and I could swap the heels for slides and make it Saturday-ready so fast!

What else is new?? Big plans for your weekend? None for me (and I'm not mad about it, especially after being gone last weekend.) I'm hoping to finish a new book, tackle some organizing projects in my room, maybe do a little cooking, a little playing around in my closet, and maybe get super ambitious and clean my car. We'll see. Enjoy!

Shop the look below! Never wash your hair with me!

photos by Adriane Smith Creative- who just had her little girl! Congrats Adriane! <3